Flowers for love at all Saints day |
Have you been told how to
love? Have you been told how to love by a successful "lover" or by a disappointed
lonely woman? Do you get my point? We are never told how to Make Love Work".
We copy the ways our parents
showed us, maybe our uneducated same-age friends tell us or how we liked it in
a movie.
Then we fall in love and are
happy.
After some time we are no
longer so happy and if we ask our role models we are told "That is normal!"
Is it normal?
Yes, if normal is what the
majority experiences.
Is it inevitable?
No!
I think it is OK to start
living and loving and have one or two failed relationships, but then we should
stop and look what goes wrong and where to find a solution or a teacher.
When we are young and
inexperienced we are unsure if we do things the right way and maybe insecure
how to do things when we come into contact with the other gender, especially if
this is a person fate has chosen to be outstanding in our life.
But it is really a problem
to find a sound instruction how to love the right way.
I am not sure is there is a
right way. Maybe the trial and error approach we practice today is the best. If
yes, I wrote my book "Make Love Work" for me and not for you. Which
would be sad financially, but ok spiritually because I learnt a lot?
Maybe older or smarter
people in a way are not only older and smarter but arrogant to. (I am afraid I am
both - older and smarter. We think the others should not make the same mistakes
as we did. That is was parents do, don't you agree?
Some of our mistakes are so
obvious after we have gone through the experiences that we do not understand
why we did not see it from the start. Don’t you think it would be nice to have
a book that teaches you how to love without pleasing a deity? It is amazing we
are told God love us and love is the highest. But the ones teaching us engage
themselves more in warfare than in love making.
The intention of the eBook "MakeLove Work" was and is, to help you see and understand some of the
mechanisms we experience when we "love" but which are not necessarily
connected to love itself.
I also would like to see
love in a less religious way, even if I am not sure if we can separate love from
God.
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