Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Can we learn (to) Love?


Flowers for love at all Saints day

Have you been told how to love? Have you been told how to love by a successful "lover" or by a disappointed lonely woman? Do you get my point? We are never told how to Make Love Work".
We copy the ways our parents showed us, maybe our uneducated same-age friends tell us or how we liked it in a movie.
Then we fall in love and are happy.
After some time we are no longer so happy and if we ask our role models we are told "That is normal!"
Is it normal?
Yes, if normal is what the majority experiences.
Is it inevitable?
No!
I think it is OK to start living and loving and have one or two failed relationships, but then we should stop and look what goes wrong and where to find a solution or a teacher.
When we are young and inexperienced we are unsure if we do things the right way and maybe insecure how to do things when we come into contact with the other gender, especially if this is a person fate has chosen to be outstanding in our life.
But it is really a problem to find a sound instruction how to love the right way.
I am not sure is there is a right way. Maybe the trial and error approach we practice today is the best. If yes, I wrote my book "Make Love Work" for me and not for you. Which would be sad financially, but ok spiritually because I learnt a lot?
Maybe older or smarter people in a way are not only older and smarter but arrogant to. (I am afraid I am both - older and smarter. We think the others should not make the same mistakes as we did. That is was parents do, don't you agree?
Some of our mistakes are so obvious after we have gone through the experiences that we do not understand why we did not see it from the start. Don’t you think it would be nice to have a book that teaches you how to love without pleasing a deity? It is amazing we are told God love us and love is the highest. But the ones teaching us engage themselves more in warfare than in love making.
The intention of the eBook "MakeLove Work" was and is, to help you see and understand some of the mechanisms we experience when we "love" but which are not necessarily connected to love itself.
I also would like to see love in a less religious way, even if I am not sure if we can separate love from God.

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